Sadness, the most common feeling a break up is associated with. And for good reason. You've put your time, money, and effort into being with this person. You think of time spent on them when you could have been doing other things. You also might think that if you can just get back with them, all that time wouldn't really be wasted, right? More often than not, this is not the case. You might feel good for a while, but you could also feel depressed a few days or even weeks in. My Experience: So, we've broken up, the anger is gone, and I'm noticing how empty the bed feels. I think to myself, how did I sleep in this bed before her? and reach for my phone to call. Maybe if I just invite her over, hold her, talk to her, I'll feel great again. This isn't what I need. I withdraw my hand and instead turn on a sad playlist on my iPod. The music might make me cry or just choke me up as I remember how much I miss her. I don't need to focus on the negative. I've already done that with the anger. The thing I need to remember, is that I'm remembering happy moments spent together in order to move through them, not to say, "I want that again". I make sure to let the feelings of sadness run through me. If I don't, I could hold them in and make a mistake down the line that causes me even more anguish. Again, just like with anger, there is no time limit on how long this will take. This is the stage where I try to find my life again. I will go out and hike at the local state park. I will eat at the places we used to go to. Not in hopes to see her, but I hopes that I can start to live my life again. In this way, I find how I lived before her and discover how I've evolved from being with her. When I've shuffled through this, I'm able to move to the next stage. My Method: Make a playlist of songs that make you choke up, shed a tear, or bawl your eyes out. Or just stare blankly out the window pretending you're in a sad music video (you know what I'm talking about. Don't pretend). My Music Note: Playlist will be updated when new music is found - Ashes by Celine Dion (Deadpool 2 Original Motion Picture Soundtrack) - Forever (feat. Casey Lee Williams) by Jeff Williams (Red vs. Blue Season 10) - Wings (feat. Casey Lee Williams) by Jeff Williams (RWBY Vol. 1 Soundtrack) - Hurt by Nine inch Nails (The Downward Spiral) - Hurt by Johnny Cash (Unearthed) - Do You Feel It? by Chaos Chaos (Committed to the Crime) - Heartbreak by Us The Duo (No Matter Where You Are) - Winter Sleep by Olivia (Nana Best) - Dry Your Eyes by The Streets (Everything Is Borrowed) - Fine On the Outside by Priscilla Ahn (When Marnie Was There Original Soundtrack) - Not Meant to Be by Theory of a Deadman (Scars & Souvenirs)
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